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musical-infusion: Grown Woman | Beyoncé

Wed, 22 May 2013 10:57:15 -0400

musical-infusion:

Grown Woman | Beyoncé

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Mon, 20 May 2013 22:26:08 -0400

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"Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s..."

Sun, 19 May 2013 18:49:40 -0400

“Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.”

- Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason (via albinwonderland)

my ashtray ♡

Thu, 16 May 2013 17:36:00 -0400

my ashtray ♡

thedailytwerk: Enjoy The Silence - Depeche Mode

Thu, 16 May 2013 11:12:56 -0400

thedailytwerk:

Enjoy The Silence - Depeche Mode

tedeboluca: the gossip- heavy cross

Wed, 15 May 2013 17:04:53 -0400

tedeboluca:

the gossip- heavy cross

XXYYXX || About You

Wed, 15 May 2013 02:25:07 -0400

XXYYXX || About You

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Sun, 12 May 2013 13:23:23 -0400

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Sun, 12 May 2013 12:48:53 -0400

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Hi, idk if you have been asked this in the past, do you like/dislike be compared with Bailey Jay ? what is your opinion about her?

Sun, 12 May 2013 01:30:06 -0400

i think she’s very pretty! i have been compared to her a lot. i take it as a compliment.

What colour are your toenails? Please upload a lovely photo of your cute feet. x

Sun, 12 May 2013 00:30:24 -0400

Do the other soldiers in your boyfriends unit know/care that you are trans? You are beautiful btw and he is a lucky man.

Sun, 12 May 2013 00:28:00 -0400

a few of them know, the others do not.
the ones that he told don’t really seem to care too much because they’re his friends, and they care about him obviously. it’s not a big deal. he did however say that one of them that he told was, for the first time ever, speechless after finding out ahaha.

they all know of me, and that i am his girlfriend though.

If a straight guy is attracted to a transexual girl does that make him gay?

Sat, 11 May 2013 23:31:00 -0400

i don’t really think so, but it’s a difficult thing to talk about.

if i were to say that a man being attracted to an unpassable transgender woman were gay because the woman looks more masculine, that would be discrediting her worth, or identity as a woman. if i were to say that a man who only wants a transgender woman for her penis were gay, that would be giving claim to genitalia’s sole significance to sexuality, etcetera.

honestly i don’t think that a man is homosexual for it by any means.
i think that sexuality, although defined as having sex with the same-sex and that’s it, isn’t really that simple. if anything i think your sexual orientation is geared towards someone’s gender.

i.e., a man attracted to a woman is straight.
a man attracted to a man is gay.
a woman attracted to a woman is a lesbian, etc

got my hair cut and styled, and i’ll probably get glasses...

Sat, 11 May 2013 22:44:43 -0400

got my hair cut and styled, and i’ll probably get glasses soon since i’m somewhat blind. i can see myself aging.

(◕ω◕✿) #lunch

Fri, 10 May 2013 14:13:04 -0400

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#ootd

Wed, 08 May 2013 20:14:27 -0400

#ootd

Audio

Mon, 06 May 2013 04:25:23 -0400

Audio

Mon, 06 May 2013 04:24:41 -0400

Errandsssss

Sat, 04 May 2013 17:32:00 -0400

Errandsssss

You mentioned age of transition being a big factor in ultimately determining ones chances of passing - how old is 'too old' in your opinion? (just on average; obviously YMMV)

Fri, 03 May 2013 18:42:37 -0400

it’s all on genetics.

typically, before 40.